PART 3 OF 3 HOW RACIST JUDGES IN THE DEMOCRATIC PARTY CLOSE THEIR EYES TO CORRUPTION PERPETRATED ON PERSONS OF COLOR:

AFRICAN AMERICANS AND INDEPENDENT WHITES DO NOT RECEIVE EQUAL PROTECTION OF THE LAWS IN CHICAGO COURTS OR IN ILLINOIS:

TAKE A LOOK AT HOW JUDGES SUPPORT CORRUPTION AND UPHOLD #JIMCROW LAWS PROVING PERSONS OF COLOR ARE SECOND CLASS OR 3RD CLASS CITIZENS.

                 IN THE CIRCUIT COURT OF COOK COUNTY, ILLINOIS

COUNTY DEPARTMENT--CHANCERY DIVISION

U.S. Bank National Association, As Trustee Under)

Pooling and Servicing Agreement Dated as of        )

December 1, 2006 Mastr Asset–Backed Securities )

Trust 2006-NC3 Mortgage Pass-Through               )  Case # 2008 CH 33616

Certificates, Series 2006-NC3                                 )                                                           Petitioner        )

                                                                                 )          

V.                                                                              )                                                                                                                                                                          )     

                                                                                 )

Monzella Y. Johnson, A/K/A Monzella                  )                                   

Johnson; Marcia E. Johnson A/K/A Marcia            )                                                 Johnson: Mortgage Electronic Registration            )

Systems, Inc. As Nominee for New Century          )

Mortgage Corporation; Monzella Y. Johnson         )                                         

( C ) Cestui Que Trust; Discover Bank;                  )

Unknown Owners and Non-Record Claimants,      )

                                                                                 )

                                                           Respondents  )

                                                                                                                  

        RESPONDENT’S RESPONSE MOTION STRIKING & OBJECTING PLAINTIFF’S COMPLAINT DUE TO “FRAUD” AND BARRED BY 5 YEAR STATUTE OF LIMITATION 735 ILCS 5/13-205 w/AFFIDAVIT

   Now comes Petitioner, Monzella Y. Johnson et al. being represented Pro Se in this cause respectfully represents to this court the reasons and files herewith her Affidavit in support of Respondent’s Response Motion Striking & Objecting Plaintiff’s Complaint et al.

                                                                                                                                         

1.                That on June 7, 2010, Judge Gillespie entered an Order “The court on its own motion vacates the judgment of foreclosure for lack of a proper affidavit in support et al”.

2.           That Plaintiff’s Motion states Par. 1, Complaint was filed on September 11, 2008 and the First Amended Complaint was filed June 7, 2016”.

A-  That on the face of Plaintiff’s legal instrument demonstrates 735 ILCS 5/13-205 is applicable to the aforementioned matter;

          The purpose of a statute of limitation is to require any necessary litigation to be brought within such time as the particular facts may be proved with the utmost certainty and before adequate proof has become stale or entirely lost. Horn v City of Chicago, 1949, 87 N. E. 2d 642, 403 Ill. 549, appeal dismissed, certiorari denied 70 S. Ct. 429, 338 U.S. 940, 94 L. Ed. 580.

         13-205. Five year limitation. Except as provided in Section 2-725 of the “Uniform Commercial Code”, approved July 31, 1961, as amended, and Section 11-13 of “The Illinois Public Aid Code”, approved April 11, 1967, as amended. Actions on unwritten contracts, expressed or implied, or on awards of arbitration, or to recover damages for an injury done to property, real or personal, or to recover the possession of personal property or damages for the detention or conversion thereof, and all civil actions not otherwise provided for, shall be commenced within 5 years next after the cause of action accrued.

        Statute of limitations and doctrine of laches have common purpose: to prevent prejudice to defendant caused by plaintiff’s undue delay in filing suit. Lincoln-Way Community High School Dist. 210 v. Village of Frankfort, App. 3 Dist. 1977, 9Ill. Dec. 884, 51 Ill. App. 3d 602, 367 N.E. 2d 318.

Under Illinois law, all claims as to personal property, including claims for damage to or recover possession of such property, are governed by five-year statute of limitations. In re March First, Inc., Bkrtcy. N. D. Ill. 2007, 378 B.R. 563 affirmed 2008. 

3.           Plaintiffs never challenged or attempted to vacate the courts order vacating the June 7, 2010 Foreclosure judgment, pursuant to 735 ILCS 5/2 1301 an untimely motion to vacate judgment will ordinarily be construed as petition for relief from final judgment under Illinois Code of Civil Procedure. Lodolce v. Central Du Page Hosp., App. 2 Dist. 1991, 159 Ill. Dec. 789, 216 Ill. App. 3d 902, 576 N. E. 2d 458, appeal denied 164 Ill. Dec. 918 et al.

4.           That the Plaintiffs had a number of attorneys to appear before the court inducing reliance without filing appearances in an attempt to bully and intimidate the defendant’s accepted the aforementioned order which is deemed a judgment of June 7, 2010---where judgment was entered in trial court at time when plaintiff was represented by counsel and defendant was in court in person, and judgment order was okayed by defendant in person and by plaintiff through his attorney, judgment was not void. Nicholson v. Lowenstein, App. 1966, 77 Ill. App. 2d 97, 222 N. E. 2d 157, certiorari denied 88 S. Ct. 62, 389 U.S. 825 et al.

5.           That the Plaintiffs are expecting this court to ignore the Defendants legal affidavits and meritorious defenses and deny anything they submit due to their skin color being African American and the fact they are Pro se and continue to abuse discretion of the court and enter orders void in nature assisting the Plaintiffs;

     Section 2-1401 also codifies the common law that a void order can be attacked at any time. The petitioner does not have to allege facts to support a meritorious defense or the exercise of due diligence to vacate a void order. Since a void order is a nullity from its inception, the order will have no legal effect. The most common example of a void order is one where the court lacked personal or subject matter jurisdiction over the subject matter or parties. A court will not set aside a judgment lightly. Courts are mindful that collaterally attacking judgments could have disastrous consequences in an orderly administration of justice. Thus a court will only void an order if there is no other alternative. Ford Motor Credit Co. v. Sperry, 214 Ill. 2d 371, 827 N.E. 2d 422, 292 Ill. Dec 893 (2005).     

6.            That the Plaintiffs have exhausted every method unimaginable trying to steal Defendant’s home in the disguise of “Foreclosure” in spite of the laws demonstrating “Fraud” and that the Defendants are entitled to Equal of Protection of the Laws in Illinois, pursuant to Federal statutes; 

    In order to determine whether trial court has abused its discretion in deciding motion for leave to file amended complaint, Appellate Court looks at the following four factors: 1) whether proposed amendment would cure defective pleading; 2.) whether other parties would sustain prejudice or surprise by virtue of proposed amendment; 3.) whether proposed amendment is timely; and 4.) whether previous opportunities to amend pleading could be identified. McHale v. W. D.  Trucking, Inc., App 1 Dist. 2015, 396 Ill. Dec 46, 39 N. E. 3d 595, appeal denied et al.   

A-  Hereto attached, Ex A Computer Printout from the database where it states Page 3, Appearance Filed (Oct. 31, 2008);

B-    That attorney Dutton, Barbara never at any time filed a timely appearance pursuant to the Illinois Code of Civil Procedures every appearance shall be filed within the time fixed by the rule of the Supreme Court;

C-   That because the attorneys as demonstrated in this manner have been able to mislead the court successfully the court never had jurisdiction  on the original complaint; thereby, nullifying any legal action in this matter due to diabolical acts of “Fraud”

    Fraud admissibility great latitude is permitted in proving fraud C.J.S. Fraud 104 ET Seg. Fraud 51-57. where a question of fraud and deceit is the issue involved in a case, great latitude is ordinarily permitted in the introduction of evidence, and courts allow the greatest liberality in the method of examination and in the scope of inquiry Vigus V. O’Bannon, 1886 8 N.E 788, 118 ILL 334. Hazelton V. Carolus, 1907 132 ILL. App. 512. Pursuant to this precedent, hereto attached, Gr Ex B, Motion for Reconsideration & Vacate June 1, 2016 et al., Supreme Court case #120724, hereto attached, attorneys committing “Fraud” and admitted it and did not object to any of the pleadings in any court or Supreme Court of Illinois;

  

               INDUCING RELIANCE

To prevail in a cause of action for fraud, Plaintiff must prove that Defendant made statement of material nature which was relied on by victim and was made for purposes of inducing reliance, and that victim’s reliance led to his injury. Parsons V. Winter, 1986, 1 Dist., 491 N.E. 2d 1236, 96 ILL Dec. 776, 142 ILL App 3d 354, Appeal Denied.

    In Carter V. Mueller 457 N.E. 2d 1335 ILL. App. 1 Dist. 1983 The Supreme Court has held that: “The elements of a cause of action for fraudulent misrepresentation (sometimes referred to as “fraud and deceit” or deceit) are: (1) False statement of material fact; (2) known or believed to be false by the party making it; (3) intent to induce the other party to act; (4) action by the other party in reliance on the truth of the statement; and (5) damage to the other party resulting from such reliance.

  

U. S Sup Court Digest 24(1) General Conspiracy

U.S. 2003. Essence of a conspiracy is an agreement to commit an unlawful act.—U.S. v. Jimenez Recio, 123 S. Ct. 819, 537 U.S. 270, 154 L.Ed.2d 744, on remand 371F.3d 1093

         Agreement to commit an unlawful act, which constitutes the essence of a conspiracy, is a distinct evil that exist and be punished whether or not the substantive crime ensues.-Id.

         Conspiracy poses a threat to the public over and above the threat of the commission of the relevant substantive crime, both because the combination in crime makes more likely the commission of other crimes and because it decreases the part from their path of criminality.-Id.

CONSPIRACY

Fraud maybe inferred from nature of acts complained of, individual and collective interest of alleged conspirators, situation, intimacy, and relation of parties at time of commission of acts, and generally all circumstances preceding and attending culmination of claimed conspiracy Illinois Rockford Corp. V. Kulp, 1968, 242 N.E. 2d 228, 41 ILL. 2d 215.

     Conspirators to be guilty of offense need not have entered into conspiracy at same time or have taken part in all its actions. People V. Hardison, 1985, 911 Dec. 162, 108. Requisite mens rea elements of conspiracy are satisfied upon showings of agreement of offense with intent that offense be committed; Actus reas element is satisfied of act in furtherance of agreement People V. Mordick, 1981, 50 ILL, Dec. 63

      Supreme Court Rule [137] provides in pertinent part:

            If a pleading, motion, or other paper is signed in violation of this Rule, the court, upon motion or upon its own initiative, may impose upon the person who signed it, a represented party, or both, an appropriate sanction, which may include an order to pay to the other party or parties the amount of reasonable expenses incurred because of the filling of the pleading, motion, or other paper, including a reasonable attorney fee. Not only will the courts consider an award of sanctions for active false statements: failures to disclose material facts to the court can also justify an award of sanctions.

BRUBAKKEN v. Morrison, No. 1-9-1670, 1992 Ill App. LEXIS 2144 (1^st Dist. Dec. 30, 1992). Additionally, the fact that a false statement or omission is the result of an honest mistake is no defense to entry of a sanction. ID. To the extent that an individual lawyer has engaged in sanctionable conduct, that lawyer’s firm can also be jointly and severally liable with the lawyer.

  

In that every attorney has properly admitted to every assertion Counsel has properly presented in all Affidavits Complaints and Motions but some judges are still operating and practicing under Jim Crow Laws.

  The Chicago Daily Law Bulletin, Wednesday April 26, 2006, Page 1, Illinois Political Machines help breed corruption, Associated Press writer Deanna Bellandi states, “Illinois is apparently a Petri dish for corruption. It is a real breeding ground”.         

That Chicago is the most Corrupt City in America, Huffington Post, Internet Newspaper, February 23, 2012; University of Illinois Professor Dick Simpson, “The two worst crime zones in Illinois are the governor’s mansion…..and the City Council Chambers in Chicago.” Simpson a former Chicago Alderman told the AP “no other State can match us.”

In Accordance to all of The Cook County Circuit Court Rules

MEMORANDUM OF LAW IN SUPPORT OF THE RELIEF REQUESTED

            The canons of ethic in the Rules of Professional Conduct constitute a safe guide for professional conduct, and attorneys may be disciplined for not observing them. In re Himmel, 125 Ill.2d 531, 533 N.E.2d 790, 127 Ill. Dec 708 (1988). Although they represent the best thoughts of the organized bar, it has been held that these canons are non-enforceable other than through the disciplinary proceedings. Ettinger v. Rolewick, 140 Ill.App.3d 295, 488 N.E.2d 598, 94 Ill.Dec.599 (1^st Dist. 1986). Disciplinary proceedings and sanctions are strictly within the province of the Supreme Court. Reed Yates Farms, Inc. v. Yates, 172 Ill.App.3d 519, 526 N.E2d 1115, 122 Ill.Dec 576 (4^th Dist.), appeal denied, the Illinois Supreme Court, through its disciplinary arm, the Attorney Registration and Disciplinary Commission, is the only forum for exacting such punishment. Beale v. Edgemark Financial Corp., 297 Ill. App. 3d 999, 697 N.E.2d 820, 232 Ill. Dec. 78 (1^st Dist. 1998). The ultimate authority to regulate and define the practice of law rests with the Supreme Court. Perto v. Board of Review, Illinois Department of Employment Security, 274 Ill. App.3d 485, 654 N.E.2d 232, 210 Ill. Dec. 933 (2d Dist.), appeal denied, 164 Ill. 2d 581 (1995).

Ethics

            All Illinois lawyers must be familiar with the Illinois Rules of Professional Conduct, and trail lawyers must be particularly familiar with the rules that apply specially to them.

            RPC 3.3, entitled “Conduct Before a Tribunal,” sets forth the standards to be followed by the trial lawyer during “battle.” Section (a) of that rule states:

(a)   In appearing in a professional capacity before a tribunal, a lawyer shall not:

(1)   make a statement of material fact or law to a tribunal which the lawyer knows or reasonably should know is false;

(2)   fail to disclose to a tribunal a material fact known to the lawyer when disclosure is necessary to avoid assisting a criminal or fraudulent act by the client;

(3)   fail to disclose to the tribunal legal authority in the controlling jurisdiction known to the lawyer to be directly adverse to the position of the client and not disclosed by opposing counsel;

(4)   Offer evidence that the lawyer knows to be false. If a lawyer has offered material evidence and comes to know of its falsity, the lawyer shall take reasonable remedial measures;

(5)   participate in the creation or preservation of evidence when the lawyer knows or reasonably should know the evidence is false ;

(6)   counsel or assist the client in conduct the lawyer knows to be illegal of fraudulent;

(7)   engage in other illegal conduct or conduct in violation of these Rules;

(8)   fail to disclose the identities of the clients represented and of the persons who employed the lawyer unless such information is privileged or irrelevant;

(9)   intentionally degrade a witness or other person by stating or alluding to personal facts concerning that person which are not relevant to the case;

(10) in trial, allude to any matter that the lawyer does not reasonably believe is relevant or that will not be supported by admissible evidence, assert personal knowledge of facts in issue except when testifying as a witness, or state a personal opinion as to the justness of a cause, the credibility of a witness, the culpability of a civil litigant or the guilt or innocence of and accused, but a lawyer may argue, on analysis of evidence, for any position or conclusion with respect to the matter stated herein;

Acts constituting direct, criminal contempt

          A wide variety of acts may constitute a direct, criminal contempt. And act may be criminal contempt even though it is also an indictable crime. Beattie v. People, 33 Ill. App 651, 1889 WL 2373 (1^st Dist. 1889). As is making false representations to the court. People v. Katelhut, 322 Ill. App. 693, 54 N.E.2d 590 (1^st Dist. 1944). Misconduct of an officer of the court is punishable as contempt. People ex rel. Rusch v. Levin, 305 Ill. App. 142, 26 N.E. 2d 895 (1^st Dist. 1939).

Official misconduct is a criminal offense; and a public officer or employee commits misconduct, punishable by fine, imprisonment, or both, when, in his official capacity, he intentionally or recklessly fails to perform any mandatory duty as required by law; or knowingly performs an act which he knows he is forbidden by law to perform; or with intent to obtain a personal advantage for himself or another, he performs an act in excess of his lawful authority ….S.H.A. Ch 38 33-3.

False statements

            Censure was recommended sanction for attorney who engaged in conduct involving dishonesty, made statement of material fact or law to tribunal which she knew or reasonably should have known to be false, and failed to disclose to tribunal a material fact known to her when disclosure was necessary to avoid assisting criminal or fraudulent at by client, given that attorney’s misconduct was not result of dishonest or corrupt motive, but of misguided attempt to accommodate clients.   99 Ill.Atty.Reg. & Disc.Comm. SH11

            Three-year suspension was recommended sanction for attorney who engaged in conduct involving dishonesty and fraud, made statement of material fact to tribunal which he knew or reasonably should have known was false, and offered evidence that he knew to be false and failed to take reasonable remedial measures. 96 Ill.Atty.Reg. & Disc.Comm. SH 358.

            Disbarment was recommended sanction for attorney who engaged in conduct involving dishonesty, made false statements of material fact or law to tribunal which she knew were false and engaged in conduct which tended to defeat administration of justice.  95 Ill Atty.Reg. & Disc.Comm. CH 877.

            Censure was recommended sanction for attorney who made statements of material fact or law known was false, and engaged in conduct which was prejudicial to the administration of justice. 95 Ill Atty.Reg. & Disc.Comm. CH 504

          One-year suspension was recommended sanction for attorney who made statement of material fact which he knew was false in appearing in professional capacity before tribunal, made a statement of material fact which he knew to be false in course of representing client, and engaged in conduct involving dishonesty.  95 Ill Atty.Reg. & Disc.Comm. CH 191.

            Disbarment was recommended sanction for attorney who engaged in serious misconduct by making misrepresentation during his divorce proceedings and who was a recidivist.   94 Ill.Atty.Reg. & Disc.Comm. SH469

Fraud on court

            Two-year suspension, retroactive to beginning of interim suspension, was recommended sanction for attorney who made statement of material fact or law to tribunal which lawyer knew or reasonably should have known to be false, instituted criminal charges as prosecutor when he knew or reasonably should have known that charges were not supported by probable cause, committed criminal act that reflected adversely upon lawyer ‘s honesty, trustworthiness, or fitness as lawyer, engaged in conduct involving dishonesty, fraud, deceit, or misrepresentation, engaged in conduct prejudicial to administration of justice, and engaged in conduct which tended to bring courts or legal profession into disrepute.  96 Ill. Atty. Reg. & Disc. Comm. CH 118. 

                                   

Under penalties as provided by law pursuant to 735 1265 5\1-109, the undersigned certifies that the statements set forth in this instrument are true and correct, except as to matters therein stated to be on information and belief and as to such matters, the undersigned certifies as aforesaid that he verily believes the same to be true.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   

                                                                                 Respectfully submitted,

                                                                                  Monzella Y. Johnson, Pro Se

                                                                                         

                                                                                        Chicago, Il 60615

                                                                                           

                                                              

                                                                                                                       

WHEREFORE the aforementioned reasons Defendant respectfully Prays for the Relief

1.    For an Order Striking the Complaint with Prejudice   

  

2.    For an Order Vacating the May 25, 2016, July 26, 2016 Court Orders where court never had jurisdiction;

3.    For the entry of an Order awarding to your Defendant for such other relief and any other relief necessary as equity may require of which this court may deem overwhelmingly just;

Under penalties as provided by law pursuant to 735 1265 5\1-109, the undersigned certifies that the statements set forth in this instrument are true and correct, except as to matters therein stated to be on information and belief and as to such matters, the undersigned certifies as aforesaid that he verily believes the same to be true.

                                                                                                                 Respectfully Submitted,     

                                                           

                                                                                    

                                                                                    Monzella Y. Johnson, Pro Se

                                                                                         

                                                                                        Chicago, Il 60615

                                                                                           

                                                             

          IN THE CIRCUIT COURT OF COOK COUNTY, ILLINOIS

COUNTY DEPARTMENT--CHANCERY DIVISION

U.S. Bank National Association, As Trustee Under)

Pooling and Servicing Agreement Dated as of        )

December 1, 2006 Mastr Asset–Backed Securities )

Trust 2006-NC3 Mortgage Pass-Through               )  Case # 2008 CH 33616

Certificates, Series 2006-NC3                                 )                                                           Petitioner        )

                                                                                 )          

V.                                                                              )                                                                                                                                                                          )     

                                                                                 )

Monzella Y. Johnson, A/K/A Monzella                  )                                   

Johnson; Marcia E. Johnson A/K/A Marcia            )                                                 Johnson: Mortgage Electronic Registration            )

Systems, Inc. As Nominee for New Century          )

Mortgage Corporation; Monzella Y. Johnson         )                                         

( C ) Cestui Que Trust; Discover Bank;                  )

Unknown Owners and Non-Record Claimants,      )

                                                                                 )

                                                           Respondents  )

                                                                                                                  

NOTICE OF 

        RESPONDENT’S RESPONSE MOTION STRIKING & OBJECTING PLAINTIFF’S COMPLAINT DUE TO “FRAUD” AND BARRED BY 5 YEAR STATUTE OF LIMITATION 735 ILCS 5/13-205 w/AFFIDAVIT

Please be advised that on August 10,  2016, Defendant has filed before this Circuit Court, Motion Striking Plaintiff’s Complaint et al; and will present said legally sufficient instrument before Judge Myerson or any Judge in her stead August  12, at     am in room 2808.                                                                

Potestivo & Ass., PC                                 F.B.I. Dir. Michael J. Anderson

223 West Jackson, Blvd, Suite 610           2111 West Roosevelt Road
Chicago, IL. 60606                                    Chicago, Il. 60612

CERTIFICATE OF SERVICE

The undersigned hereby certifies that the above notice and all attachments were caused to be personally delivered, to the above parties at the addresses provided before 5:00 pm on August 10, 2016.

                                                                ________________________

                                                                  Respectfully Submitted, Monzella Y. Johnson

              IN THE CIRCUIT COURT OF COOK COUNTY, ILLINOIS

COUNTY DEPARTMENT--CHANCERY DIVISION

U.S. Bank National Association, As Trustee Under)

Pooling and Servicing Agreement Dated as of        )

December 1, 2006 Mastr Asset–Backed Securities )

Trust 2006-NC3 Mortgage Pass-Through               )  Case # 2008 CH 33616

Certificates, Series 2006-NC3                                 )                                                           Petitioner        )

                                                                                 )          

V.                                                                              )                                                                                                                                                                          )     

                                                                                 )

Monzella Y. Johnson, A/K/A Monzella                  )                                   

Johnson; Marcia E. Johnson A/K/A Marcia            )                                                 Johnson: Mortgage Electronic Registration            )

Systems, Inc. As Nominee for New Century          )

Mortgage Corporation; Monzella Y. Johnson         )                                         

( C ) Cestui Que Trust; Discover Bank;                  )

Unknown Owners and Non-Record Claimants,      )

                                                                                 )

                                                           Respondents  )

                                                                                                                  

                                                 AFFIDAVIT

STATE OF ILLINOIS )

                                        )

COUNTY OF COOK   )

I Monzella Y. Johnson Pro Se being duly sworn on oath states the aforementioned pleadings enumerated within said motion pursuant to 735 1265 5/1-109, the undersigned certifies that the statements set forth in this instrument are true and correct, except as to matters therein stated to be on information and belief and as to such matters, the undersigned certifies as aforesaid that he verily believes the same to be true.

Respectfully Submitted                                                         Notary

                                                                       

____________________

Monzella Y. Johnson

Chicago, Il 60615

CAN ANYONE RECOGNIZE RACISM VERSUS WHITE PRIVILEGE?

Yesterday, I was tagged in a post by an old high school friend, asking me and a few others a very public, direct question about white privilege and racism. I feel compelled to publish not only his query but also my response to it, as it may be a helpful discourse for more than just a handful of folks on Facebook.

Here’s his post:

To all of my black or mixed-race FB friends, I must profess a blissful ignorance of this “white privilege” which I’m apparently guilty of possessing. Not being able to fully put myself in the shoes of someone from a background/race/religion/gender/nationality/body type that differs from my own makes me part of the problem, according to what I’m now hearing.

Despite my treating everyone with respect and humor my entire life (as far as I know), I’m somehow complicit in the misfortune of others. I’m not saying I’m color blind, but whatever racism/sexism/other-ism my life experience has instilled in me stays within me, and is not manifested in the way I treat others (which is not the case with far too many, I know).

So that I may be enlightened, can you please share with me some examples of institutional racism that have made an indelible mark upon you? If I am to understand this, I need people I know personally to show me how I’m missing what’s going on. Personal examples only. I’m not trying to be insensitive; I only want to understand (but not from the media). I apologize if this comes off as crass or offends anyone.

Here’s my response:

Hi Jason,

First off, I hope you don’t mind that I’ve quoted your post and made it part of mine. I think the heart of what you’ve asked of your friends of color is extremely important, and I think my response needs much more space than as a reply on your feed. I truly thank you for wanting to understand what you are having a hard time understanding.

 I realized many of my friends have no idea what I’ve experienced unless they were present (and aware) when it happened. Coincidentally, over the last few days, I have been thinking about sharing some of the incidents of prejudice/racism I’ve experienced in my lifetime (in fact, I just spoke with my sister Lesa about how to best do this yesterday) because I realized many of my friends, especially the white ones, have no idea what I’ve experienced/dealt with unless they were present (and aware) when it happened.

There are two reasons for this. First of all, because not only as a human being do I suppress the painful and uncomfortable in an effort to make it go away, but I was also taught within my community (I was raised in the 1970s and 1980s—it’s shifted somewhat now) and by society at largenot to make a fuss, speak out, or rock the boat. To just “deal with it,” lest more trouble follow (which, sadly, it often does).

Second, there is always the fear of being questioned or dismissed with “Are you sure that’s what you heard?” or “Are you sure that’s what they meant?” This would likely result in me being angered and upset all over again by well-meaning but hurtful and essentially unsupportive responses.

So, again, I’m glad you asked, because I really want to answer. But as I do, please know a few things first:

This is not even close to the whole list. I’m cherry picking because none of us has all day.

I’ve also been really lucky. Most of what I share below is mild compared to what others in my family and community have endured.

I’m going to go in chronological order. Hopefully this will help you might begin to glimpse the tonnage and why what many white folks might feel is a “Where did all of this come from?” moment in society has actually been festering individually and collectively for the lifetimeof pretty much every black or brown person living in America today, regardless of wealth or opportunity. Most of what I share below is mild compared to what others in my family and community have endured. 

Keep in mind that some of what I share covers sexism, too. Intersectionality is another termI’m sure you’ve heard and want to put quotes around, but it’s a real thing, too, just like white privilege. But you’ve requested a focus on personal experiences with racism, so here it goes:

1. When I was three, my family moved into an upper-middle-class, all-white neighborhood. We had a big back yard, so my parents built a pool. Not the only pool on the block, but the only one neighborhood boys started throwing rocks into. White boys. One day my mom ID’d one as the boy from across the street, went to his house, told his mother, and, fortunately, his mother believed mine. My mom not only got an apology, but also had that boy jump in our pool and retrieve every single rock. No more rocks after that.

Then mom even invited him to come over to swim sometime if he asked for permission. Everyone became friends. This one has a happy ending because my mom was and is badass about matters like these, but I hope you can see that the white privilege in this situation is being able to move into a “nice” neighborhood and be accepted—not harassed, made to feel unwelcome, or prone to acts of vandalism and hostility.

2. When my older sister was five, a white boy named Mark called her a “nigger” after she beat him in a race at school. She didn’t know what it meant, but in her gut, she knew it was bad. This was the first time I’d seen my father the kind of angry that has nowhere to go. I somehow understood it was because not only had some boy verbally assaulted his daughter and had gotten away with it; it had introduced her (and me) way too early to that term and the reality of what it meant—that some white people would be cruel and careless with black people’s feelings just because of our skin color. Or our achievement. When my older sister was five, a white boy named Mark called her a “nigger” after she beat him in a race at school. 

If it’s unclear in any way, the point here is if you’ve never had a defining moment in your childhood or your life where you realize your skin color alone makes other people hate you, you have white privilege.

3. Sophomore year of high school. I had Mr. Melrose for Algebra 2. Sometime within the first few weeks of class, he points out that I’m “the only spook” in the class. This was meant to be funny. It wasn’t. So I doubt it will surprise you I was relieved when he took medical leave after suffering a heart attack and was replaced by a sub for the rest of the semester.

The point here is if you’ve never been “the only one” of your race in a class, at a party, on a job, etc. and it’s been pointed out in a “playful” fashion by the authority figure in said situation—you have white privilege.

4. When we started getting our college acceptances senior year, I remember some white male classmates were pissed that another black classmate had gotten into UCLA while they didn’t. They said that affirmative action had given him “their spot” and it wasn’t fair. An actual friend of theirs. Who’d worked his ass off.

 Sophomore year of high school Mr. Melrose pointed out that I was “the only spook” in Algebra 2 class. The point here is if you’ve never been on the receiving end of the assumption that when you’ve achieved something it’s only because it was taken away from a white person who “deserved it”—that is white privilege.

5. When I got accepted to Harvard (as a fellow Advanced Placement student you were witness to what an academic beast I was in high school, yes?), three separate times I encountered white strangers as I prepped for my maiden trip to Cambridge that rankle to this day. The first was the white doctor giving me a physical at Kaiser:

Me: “I need to send an immunization report to my college so I can matriculate.”
Doctor: “Where are you going?”
Me: “Harvard.”
Doctor: “You mean the one in Massachusetts?”

The second was in a store, looking for supplies I needed from Harvard’s suggested “what to bring with you” list.

Store employee: “Where are you going?”
Me: “Harvard.”
Store employee: “You mean the one in Massachusetts?”

The third was at UPS, shipping off boxes of said “what to bring” to Harvard. I was in line behind a white boy mailing boxes to Princeton, and in front of a white woman sending her child’s boxes to wherever.

Woman, to the boy: “What college are you going to?”
Boy: “Princeton.”
Woman: “Congratulations!” [to me] “Where are you sending your boxes?”
Me: “Harvard.”
Woman: “You mean the one in Massachusetts?”

I think: “No, b——, the one downtown next to the liquor store.” But I say, gesturing to my labeled boxes, “Yes, the one in Massachusetts.” Then she says congratulations, but it’s too f—ing late.

The point here is if no one has ever questioned your intellectual capabilities or attendance at an elite institution based solely on your skin color, that is white privilege.

6. In my freshman college tutorial, our small group of 4-5 was assigned to read Thoreau, Emerson, Malcolm X, Joseph Conrad, Dreiser, etc. When it was the week to discuss The Autobiography of Malcolm X, one white boy boldly claimed he couldn’t even get through it because he couldn’t relate and didn’t think he should be forced to read it. I don’t remember the words I said, but I still remember the feeling. I think it’s what doctors refer to as chandelier pain: as soon as a sensitive area on a patient is touched, they shoot through the roof. That’s what I felt.

I know I said something like, my whole life I’ve had to read “things that don’t have anything to do with me or that I relate to” but I find a way anyway because that’s what learning is about—trying to understand other people’s perspectives.

 In my freshman college tutorial, one white boy claimed he couldn’t get through “Malcolm X” because he couldn’t relate. The point here is that the canon of literature studied in the United States, as well as the majority of television and movies, have focused primarily on the works or achievements of white men. So if you have never experienced or considered how damaging it is/was/could be to grow up without myriad role models and images in school that reflect you in your required reading material or in the mainstream media—that is white privilege.

7. All seniors at Harvard are invited to a fancy, seated group lunch with our respective dorm Masters. (Yes, they were called “Masters” up until this February when they changed it to “Faculty Deans,” but that’s just a tasty little side dish to the main course of this remembrance.) While we were being served by the Dunster House cafeteria staff—the black ladies from Haiti and Boston that ran the line daily; I still remember Jackie’s kindness and warmth to this day—Master Sally mused out loud how proud they must be to be serving the nation’s best and brightest.

I don’t know if they heard her, but I did and it made me uncomfortable and sick. The point here is, if you’ve never been blindsided when you are just trying to enjoy a meal by a well-paid faculty member’s patronizing and racist assumptions about how grateful black people must feel to be in their presence—you have white privilege.

8. While writing on a television show in my 30s, my new white male boss—who had only known me for a few days—had unbeknownst to me told another writer on staff he thought I was conceited, didn’t know as much I thought I did, and didn’t have the talent I thought I had. And what exactly had happened in those few days? I disagreed with a pitch where he suggested our lead female character carelessly leave a pot holder on the stove and burn down her apartment. This character being a professional caterer.

When what he said about me was revealed months later (by then he’d come to respect and rely on me), he apologized for prejudging me because I was a black woman. I told him he was ignorant and clearly had a lot to learn. It was a good talk because he was remorseful and open. But the point here is, if you’ve never been on the receiving end of a boss’s prejudiced, uninformed, “how dare she question my ideas” badmouthing based on solely on his ego and your race, you have white privilege.

 While writing on a television show in my 30s, my new white male boss apologized for prejudging me because I was a black woman. 9. On my very first date with my now husband, I climbed into his car and saw baby wipes on the passenger side floor. He said he didn’t have kids, and that they were just there to clean up messes in the car. I twisted to secure my seat belt and saw a stuffed animal in the rear window. I gave him a look. He said, “I promise, I don’t have kids. That’s only there so I don’t get stopped by the police.” He then told me that when he drove home from work late at night, he was getting stopped by cops constantly because he was a black man in a luxury car and they assumed it was either stolen or he was a drug dealer. When he told a cop friend about this, he told Warren to put a stuffed animal in the rear window because it would change “his profile” to that of a family man, and he was much less likely to be stopped.

The point here is, if you’ve never had to mask the fruits of your success with a floppy-eared stuffed bunny rabbit so you won’t get harassed by the cops on the way home from your gainful employment (or never had a first date start this way), you have white privilege.

10. Six years ago, I started a Facebook page that has grown into a website called Good Black News because I was shocked to find there were no sites dedicated solely to publishing the positive things black people do. Let me explain here how biased the coverage of mainstream media is, in case you don’t already have a clue—as I curate, I can’t tell you how often I have to swap out a story’s photo to make it as positive as the content. Photos published of black folks in mainstream media are very often sullen or angry-looking. Even when it’s a positive story!

I also have to constantly alter headlines to include a person’s name and not have it just be “Black Man Wins Settlement” or “Carnegie Hall Gets First Black Board Member,” or rephrase it from a subtle subjugator like “ABC Taps Viola Davis as Series Lead” to “Viola Davis Lands Lead on ABC Show” as is done for, say, Jennifer Aniston or Steven Spielberg. I also receive a fair amount of highly offensive racist trolling. I don’t even respond. I block and delete ASAP.

Not having to rewrite stories and headlines or swap photos while being trolled by racists when all you’re trying to do on a daily basis is promote positivity and share stories of hope and achievement and justice—that is white privilege.

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 Trust me, nobody is mad at you for being white. Nobody. Just like nobody should be mad at me for being black. Okay, Jason, there’s more, but I’m exhausted. And my kids need dinner. Remembering and reliving many of these moments has been a strain and a drain (and, again, this ain’t even half or the worst of it). But I hope my experiences shed some light for you on how institutional and personal racism have affected the entire life of a friend of yours to whom you’ve only been respectful and kind. I hope what I’ve shared makes you realize it’s not just strangers but people you know and care for who have suffered and are suffering because we are excluded from the privilege you have to not be judged, questioned, or assaulted in any way because of your race.

As to you “being part of the problem,” trust me, nobody is mad at you for being white. Nobody. Just like nobody should be mad at me for being black. Or female. Or whatever.

But what is being asked of you is to acknowledge that white privilegedoes exist, and to not only to treat people of races that differ from yours “with respect and humor,” but also to stand up for fair treatment and justice, to not let “jokes” or “off-color” comments by friends, co-workers, or family slide by without challenge, and to continually make an effort to put yourself in someone else’s shoes, so we may all cherish and respect our unique and special contributions to society as much as we do our common ground.

This post originally appeared at Good Black News. Follow Lori on Twitter at @GoodBlackNews. We welcome your comments at ideas@qz.com.